Abstract
the love is the permanent topic from of Old, everybody anticipates the happy love. However, along with the unceasingly in-depth develops of the love and unceasing appearance in bilateral relations contradictory, an angle that we may reconsider, how the parents and the Family-of-Origin are to be affecting children's love mentality in intersexual relations? The primary family not only affect that children select his or her consort to a certain extent,but also have the influence to children's love mentality and the behavior, meanwhile will have the possibility to initiate nonhealing grief in childhood, for this reason, we should positively seek complete self-realization, gain ability to love, effectively avoid the adverse effect caused by the Family-of-Origin, bravely face the pain experience in childhood, realize growth again, become one to be able to responsible for oneself, can nourish itself, can look after oneself, can have the loving ability, understood loves and treasure the loves. Only like this could children find and inevitably find the real love in the life.
Key word: Family-of-Origin Complete self The pain in childhood